for the layered, complex, and complicated. Aren’t we all?
your online big sis.
SPILL.
SPILL.
MISSION UN-CTRL IS in full effect.
if u know me, or anyone who’s A BIT minx n moody, we hate to be controlled. THE SECOND THAT SHIT LEAVES THE BEDROOM, I’M OUT. idk what kind of high CONTROLLING men/women feel FROM it, but we’re flIPPING their mission-CTRL to mission-UNCTRL.
#1 UN-CTRL: not THINKing FOR YOURSELF
AFRAID TO STAND OUT TOO MUCH? NO SUCH THING.
“MY only GOAL WAS TO AVOID HIS INSANE MOOD SWINGS & TO KEEP OUR ADDICTIVE/OBSESSIVE ‘RELATIONSHIP’ GOING.”
WHETHER IT was being TOLD HOW TO DRESS, to get OFF SOCIAL MEDIA, OR WHATEVER THE FUCK, ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS PLEASE HIM. THAT WAS IT. IF YOU’RE EXPERIENCING THIS- PLEASE SPILL. IT’S WAY MORE COMMON THAN YOU THINK.
#2 UN-CTRL: ISOLATION
It’s no secret, but to kindly remind you: In order to thrive in your romantic relationships, you NEED to thrive in your relationships with your friends, family, and most importantly: YOURSELF.
friends are key.
your therapist is your therapist, your boyfriend/girlfriend’s your boyfriend/girlfriend, and your friends and your friends!
& being alone IS SWEEEET.
IT gives US the opportunity to process OUR emotions right as they happen. No need to explain, justify, or even recognize why it is you’re feeling some type of way. It’s fucking normal to be alone, so Get comfortable. it’s not lonely. It’s lovely.
#3 UN-CTRL: guilt tripping
Do you have this constant feeling OF something BEING held over your head?
like a fUcking cookie that you’ll be rewarded with in some parallel universe. no matter how much you adapt, confine, or listen- they’ll always go back to that one thing.
Your inability to listen to your own instinct is due to this everlasting feeling of guilt. it’s rooted so deeply inside of you that you literally end up putting every single person first, except yourself.
and let me be clear: you will never adapt enough, confine enough, or listen enough to get rid of this feeling. it’s not going anywhere and you’re never getting the cookie.
f*ck the cookie.
#1 UN-CTRL action plan: communicate.
i can NOT stress how important this first step is. They may have control over you mentally, but physically- you need to use the voice you were given and speak up.
IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING ANY SORT OF PHYSICAL/THREAT ABUSE, PLEASE DO NOT VOICE YOUR THOUGHTS TO THAT PERSON. INSTEAD, REACH OUT TO A FRIEND, FAMILY MEMBER, TEACHER, OR ANYONE WHO CAN INTERVENE AND HELP. THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE IS 800-799-7233. THE MINX N MOODY COMMUNITY IS HERE TO SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR NAVIGATION TO SAFETY.
